Want Something New In Your Sex Life? Try A Sex Toy

Variety’s the very spice of life, that gives it all its flavour.

This William Cowper quote sums up how a sex toy can add something different and exciting to your sex life, with the added bonus of teaching you something new about yourself.

There are all sorts of different sex toys, and what you choose is completely up to you. It often depends on what you are looking for, Help reaching orgasm? Something new to try as a couple? Want to find the G-Spot?

There really is no right or wrong way to do it.

Experimenting with sex toys can give you confidence to help you explore your body in new ways. Creating a positive sexual relationship with yourself is key – you will build your sexual self-confidence, get to know your body better and learn about what you like.

Perhaps there is a certain style of vibration or pressure which you find more pleasurable, the only way you will know is if you try. In the words of Woody Allen “Don’t knock masturbation. It’s sex with someone you love.”

There are more ways to have sex than pure intercourse, some people orgasm without even touching the genitals. Being open to more possibilities means that you get the chance to explore your sexuality further.
If you try a toy that vibrates, try it all over your body – your skin is the largest erogenous zone, feel the sensitivity of the vibrations across your skin, noticing what feels good for you. Test out the different vibrations or speeds before if you are nervous about trying it on your clitoris, vulva or vagina first. The clitoris has 8000 nerve endings, making it highly sensitive, but the way you might like it stimulated is personal. If you aren’t sure – start with a vibrator that keeps it simple and only has a couple of different settings or speeds.

All of these things contribute to a more all rounded body confidence and learning more about your body can only be a good thing.
Surveys show that over 50% of women have used sex toys at some point in their lives so they must be doing something good. Sex toys can even help you work your pelvic floor, improving muscle tone. Stronger muscles = more powerful sensations of orgasm.
In addition to those benefits if you reach orgasm, you will not only feel great, but have a boost of hormones such as oxytocin which have the feel good factor.

And in terms of your partner feeling threatened – there is no need, they can join in too, either by you showing them how you like it, or allowing them to try it on you whilst you tell them what feels good. It is simply just another way of stimulating your body, and is something great for you to share, there is absolutely no need for an either/or partner/sex toy approach. It may even open up a discussion about sex and what you might like to try in future.

If you are nervous, start small. Choose something that is simple and doesn’t intimidate you with just a couple of settings if it is a vibrating toy. It can seem daunting, but don’t be put off – this is why Pureeros provides a selection of the best. Some are smooth, others bumpy, and in a variety of colours, shapes and materials it is all about what you think feels good.

What is important is that you find what’s right for you, opening the door to a greater experience of sexual pleasure.

katemoyleBY KATE MOYLE
PSYCHOSEXUAL THERAPIST
@KATEMOYLEPSYC